http://backend.userland.com/rss092 http://www.muftisays.com/qa Islamic Question & Answers Muhammad Yasin Achhodi webmaster@muftisays.com Mon, 06 Feb 2012 08:12:34 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Sat, 31 Dec 2011 20:55:34 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Asalamualaikum respected mufti saheb i do wudhu in the morning at 9 before i start uni. Most of the time i am able to spend the day without the need to go toilet until late afternoon or even early evening. Anytime i have broken my wudhu during the day would not be through istinja and i would merely do my wudhu again and not go toilet. Sometimes during the day i feel a slight need to go toilet but i hold it in slightly and delay going due to my timetable. Later in the evening when i do go toilet many occasions i see white marks on my underwear. This would have come out sometime during the day without me even realising. Having read this please assist me with the following: 1. Would this white stuff be mani, mazi or wadi if it came out during the day and i cannot recall any moment when i may have had any shahwat thoughts and it came out without me even realising? 2. During the day anytime i needed to perform salah i either had wudhu from before or just repeated my wudhu. If this stuff had come out without me realising then how would i know if my wudhu had actually broken or not? 3. When the stuff came out without me realising it would presumably make my underwear napak and due to me not being aware of it coming out i may have performed salaah with this napak on my clothes. What would the status of my namaz be if i happened to be napak without realising? 4. Upon noticing the whiteness how should i go about cleaning it? 5. The main issue is that during the day when the white stuff has come out without me realising i would have most likely performed salaah like that. Would all those namaz i performed be accepted or not? If not how do i know how many to do qadha of because i do not know exactly how many namaz was done it that state because i dont know when it happened. This is a problem which happens quite frequently and i am worried about the status of my salah. I have tried to explain everything as best as i can please help with this matter Jazakallahu khair may Allah reward you abundantly<BR> <BR> Answered: Sat, 31 Dec 2011 20:55:34 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:12:21 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 06<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Salaam I would like some advice - Almost a year ago I received an unclear text from my husband saying 'u r nt stayn n i hvn gvn u 1 divorce 2 to go n we r dun'. I replied asking for clarification 'are you saying that if I stay at my mums you're giving me a divorce (I can't remember if I asked whether he will be giving me a divorce or he is giving me one if I do stay' and he replied 'Obviously - I h8 u for making me do this'. Due to this I did not stay at mums and returned home immediately. I have not stayed since because I did not know if I am allowed even with his permission in the future. Can you please advise me on how I stand in my marriage and also if I am able to stay at mums in the future with my husband's permission. <BR> <BR> Answered: Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:12:21 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:08:55 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Assalam Alaykum.<BR><BR>I just have a couple of questions about the witr prayer:<BR><BR>1. Is the witr prayer supposed to be 1 or 3 raka?<BR>2. At what point do I say the du'a in the final raka, is it before or after I do ruku? The reason I'm asking is because I went to two different mosques, who one doing the du'a after ruku, and one doing it before. <BR>3. When praying witr in groups (e.g. during ramadan) should the du'a be said out loud by the Iman or should each person do their own du'a? <BR><BR>Thank you. <BR><BR>Salam. <BR> <BR> Answered: Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:08:55 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:08:06 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Salaam<BR><BR>Please can you give the explanation of predestination (qadr) and quotes from Quran and Hadith. Jazakallah<BR> <BR> Answered: Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:08:06 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:07:47 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Please could you advice me. i am trying to rebuild my life after an episode of chronic depression and mental stress. I have been in a very bad state over the last few weeks suffering from anxiety and sleeplessness. This was caused by thoughts that were very disturbing. I am slowly recovering now Alhanmdulillah > I am ignoring such thoughts even when they come whilst I am praying Salaat, Quraan e.t.c. However, I am frequently haunted by flashbacks of scenarios and incidents that occurred whilst I was very low. Please understand that I was in a condition of mental distress so this would cause me not to think or concentrate properly. At times I try to say the kalimah, do zikr but at the same time my mind says shirk. Sometimes the thoughts just come naturally as if I am saying them. Sometimes I don't even know have I uttered shirk or not. Wallahi I am certain if I did then I didn't mean it because I have felt very guilty afterwards. I am very paranoid. One such incident was when reciting Quran when I read the word 'rabbanaa' the image of someone else came to mind okay this was just a thought but then i carried on praying and when the word rabbanaa came agin I thought of that person , Now I am confused on purpose did I bring that thought into my mind or not? I do remember that a few seconds later I felt really guilty and said to myself how can you do that only Allah is rabb that person is not your rabb. I do know that I have felt guilt afterwards. Only a believer feels this guilt isn't it not a kaafir or mushrik.. Episodes such as these just drag me back to square one again and hamper my rehabilitation. Allah is merciful he will pardon me won't he as it is definitely a mental imbalance I am experiencing. Does my condition still fall into the category of waswasas? I don't need to re new my nikah do I? As it is impossible to keep renewing the nikah each time it happens. <BR> <BR> Answered: Thu, 22 Dec 2011 13:07:47 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:43:05 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> assalamualaikum, can you tell me if you work and you get payed so much and if have so much money and you say that your going to share your money with the needy but then you don't becasue you spend it on something else instead of giving it to the needy so what should you do if you earn alot of money if you work. jazakallah<BR> <BR> Answered: Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:43:05 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:39:10 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 10<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> salam 3lilkum ,<BR>is it allowed for a menturating women to recite quran within ones heart or recite it off the P.c, without touching any of the words?<BR><BR>jazak allahu khairan<BR> <BR> Answered: Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:39:10 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Fri, 02 Dec 2011 02:01:07 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> <P>Is there any hadeeth or athar suggesting that the qunoot in salaatulwitr should be read silently in the month of ramadhaan? Apart from the general ahaadeeth on reading a duaa in silent tone. Jazaakallah</P><BR> <BR> Answered: Fri, 02 Dec 2011 02:01:07 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:27:16 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> It is usual to spend moments of du'a and dhikr after the fardh salah before one can perform a sunnah salah. Sometimes this done by changing one's place to a nearby space. Is there such a need for a period of time after completing sunnah salah before one can perform the fardh salah? <BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:27:16 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:24:58 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> As-salaam-ul-akmu<BR><BR>I wanted to know if the bed where my wife and I have relationships in during night, is the bed clean to rest and lie on, with clean clothes. I always a blanket a top of the bed and lie on top of that. As the month of Ramadan is upon us, I am concerned about cleanness of the room and its surrounding.<BR><BR>Waa-laikum salaam<BR><BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:24:58 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:23:44 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> 1) Regarding the duaa which is made by the imaam in congregation after taraweeh salah, what is its status, i.e. fardh, sunnah, mustahab? 2) What is the status of the duaa which people read every four raka'ats (subhana dhil mulki wal malakoot...). Should it be read? If not, what should you do in the pause?<BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:23:44 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:23:04 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Dear Mufti Saahib Assalaamu alaykum. I keep having a reoccurring dream in which I am defecating. This is not a one off dream I have had this same dream a number of times. As far as I can remember sometimes I am trying to clean myself (istanja) but the part where I am defecating is reoccurring and now has me worried. If it was a one-off dream I would not have bothered you. The only thing that come to my mind is that I have a urine problem (which is common to others as well) in that when I have finished urinating I have to squeeze and cough a number of times to make sure all the urine is out and that none of it will come out on my clothes. It is possible than on a few occasions I am a little careless but at the same time I cannot over due things and cause damage to the male organ. I hope you can advise. JizakAllah for your time in answering my questions. Wassalaam. <BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:23:04 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:22:24 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Asslamualikum Mufti abu bakar karolia sahab. I got a fatwa about alcohol denat dated 3rd Nov 2006 it says it is is permissible to use perfumes which have alcohol made from other products than grapes dates and barley. i wanted to know if alcohol made from wheat is permissible to use in making perfume.could you please explain why alcohol made from grapes, barley and dates is not permissible and why alcohol made from other products is halal. Jazakallah. If you want copy of fatawa i can provide it to you. Usama kosada<BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:22:24 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:21:59 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Dear Mufti Saheb, Assalamu alaikum warah Am in a very critical situaltion now.. Please help me and reply me @ the earliest, My wife stays with her mom as we did secret marraige. She didnt pick up my call when I called her so I was angry and waited for her call. She called me and said she was not well so she went to hospital. I asked her why cant you just inform me, This talk went on and suddenly I got angry and said I dont like to live with you. If you wish I will give dash (Never uttered the word) so that you can go away. she did fight for some time and after some time even she said okay... give and go off... Then I said tell me if is it confirm, Shall I give off she said yes give off... I said Ok I ll message you on this and hung up the call. Then I was totally upset and sat for a while. At that time one heart was saying give her one (never uttered the word) so that she realise. Another heart said no please dont do that, because Allah never like that for this another heart said No! Allah please forgive me I got to give her!! only then she will come in control (Even now I never uttered the word) after this I accessed your site and went through all fatwas to get answer, However nothing satisfied me or I dont get exact answer which fits my issue. So please reply me at the earliest. * Is this act considered one Talaq is given * Is this act considered two Talaq is given *Is she she still in my Nikah *Do I have to perform Nikah again Please reply at the earliest. Wassalam Mohammed Huzaifa<BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:21:59 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:21:21 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Salaam Shaykh I have been a very frustrated and angry recently. I know this married couple who have been married for few years and they’ve got three little children. The couple have been having marriage problems ever since marriage and the women in concern use to live with her in-laws. Although the guys parents never wanted the couple to be married but ever since the marriage the in-laws as well as her sister in-laws have been very problematic and have caused major issues. The guy himself isn’t a good person as not only does he womanise but he has beaten his wife up many times. The guy also gave his wife one talaq during the initial stage of marriage. The girl has come back to her parents house numerous times and she goes back to her in-laws as many promises are made to her. Recently after an argument the guy became violent again and her father in law suggested that they have a divorce and that his son will re marry and that her father in law is going to call her father and will make sure that she leaves. The women didn’t want her parents involved and didn’t want them to be humiliated like that and she called the police and consequently the police took her back to her parents with her children which really hit the pride of her husband and in laws. The young women never blamed her husband for anything but instead diverted all the blame to her in laws although many have advised that he is the problem! While I was at the women’s parents house with her family I received a call from her husband accusing and threatening me of allsorts and he mentioned that he is going to bring a few people and wants a divorce from his wife. I said ‘if you wanted a divorce you would of by now, he then said I gave her three talaqs last week and three talaqs half an hour ago over the phone, their were a few family members who listened to what he said as it was on loud speaker and the conversation was also recorded. We then asked the women who didn’t previously mention anything about any divorce and asked by number of people and she confirmed each time without any hesitation that she was given the 3 talaqs by him half an hour ago over the phone. Myself and the women’s brother then met three Scholars the very next day and explained everything and they confirmed that the marriage was over. I myself went to another 6 Scholars and again they confirmed that the divorce has taken place. The brother now has kind of changed his tone and is not really addressing the issue and what the scholars have said. The women herself does not agree that she has been divorced and keeps on saying that I don’t want a divorce and has changed her tone saying that she now thinks he might of gave two talaqs rather than three. She is also in regular conversation with her ex sister in laws who are advising that she is not divorced as three talaqs in anger constitutes as one. The guys uncle has got involved and is saying that these Maulanas make things up and if his nephew said talaq three times in anger then its not a divorce and that he thinks that the guy has got mental health problems although the guy has got no history of mental health issues. Her parents are not dealing with this issue at all and to clarify the issue they have not got any scholars involved and have allowed her to meet her ex husband through the guys uncle who is now pulling all the strings. This whole issue isn’t being challenged by anyone although she is still living with her parents she is in regular conversation and also meets her ex and as I understand that its been suggested that they move to their own house. I have mentioned to her that she is now divorced her older sister has also advised that she is now divorced but her parents are just ignoring what we are saying and isolating us from everything and are allowing her to do what ever she wishes and others to make judgement on this issue rather than scholars. I’m frustrated, what do we do as they are living a life of sin and everyone’s in total denial. <BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:21:21 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:21:08 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Asalmalikum Imam Sahib, I was talking to my wife a couple of months ago on the internet (chat) and we started talking about her regarding her visit to her parent's house.I do tend to get a bit angry when this topic is touched as she keeps saying to me that I never let her go to her parents house etc. I am now very scared that I might have said something that affects my marriage or god forbid invalidates it in this chat.When I said the text below I kept getting the thought of divorce word going through my thoughts.So I am not sure if that's a waswasa or intention as I had been getting such waswasas for the last year now.This has become a major problem for me and I would appreciate it if you can go through the following chat and let me know what's the fatwa on this? I have highlighted the major area of concern as I saved the chat .Please please please help inshALLAH. JazakALLAH kher. me: you have been wanting to go for such a long long long long time.i mean you know as well as i do you should go to ur hearts content Wasalam,<BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:21:08 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:20:43 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> Assalamu Alaykum For over 10 years I have encountered compulsive thoughts. Initially this manifested itself in pre-occupation with cleanliness, and now the obsession has taken on a further dimension in that every statement or action is analysed for kufr or divorce. Below is a detailed description of the cleanliness issues I have encountered. 1. Initially I would not touch door handles without some form of barrier between my hand and the door handle; the reason being I feared contamination by germs. I have now overcome this compulsion. 2. There is a room at my parents’ house designated for Salah. If anyone walked in the room with shoes or walked with bare feet from an area requiring shoes I would not read Salah in that room. I would regularly wash the carpet and this practice has followed me to my own house. 3. If clothes have been hanging up for sometime and I can’t recall whether they are clean or not, I put them in the wash. 4. I despise any person that walks bare footed in an area where shoes are normally worn. 5. When performing wudhu I make a firm resolution not to wash my hands more than three times. Islamically and logically I know this is correct. However an overwhelming compulsion forces me to wash more than thrice. If I don’t, the mental repercussions are grave, i.e. I will feel that everything I touch thereafter has become unclean and will end up washing those items too. In addition, I will not end up praying Salah because I would find it uncomfortable. 6. When performing istinja, I will wipe the toilet seat with a wet tissue. Again, logically I know my wife is not unclean but I feel compelled to wipe the toilet seat with a wet tissue. I then wash the toilet cup. The reason for this is that many a time my wife just runs her hand for literally a second under the tap. I feel as if though the toilet cup is unclean and hence I wash the outside and the inside 14 times. 7. If I go to the gym and touch the equipment or the mat and then drive home I feel compelled to wash my hands and dry them. If I don’t dry them and touch the steering wheel I feel my hands may have become unclean as the steering wheel may be made from pigskin. There is no definitive way of determining whether or not my car steering wheel is made from pigskin. Further, if I touch the car steering wheel without washing my hands, then I feel as if though the germs from the gym equipment or the mat have transferred to my car steering wheel. I will therefore wash my hands and then wipe the steering wheel with a wet tissue and wait for it to dry. This will often make me late for Salah. If I don’t perform these ‘rituals’ the mental torture is unbearable and often does lead to further cleaning ‘rituals’ which results in physical and mental exhaustion. 8. When performing istinja I rub my private part 101 times to remove all trace of urine. After doing so I still feel as though a drop has come out. After having spent at least 5 minutes performing wudhu, I often find that a drop has come out. This makes me frustrated and angry and leads to questioning of Islam in my heart. Since I know that verbally uttering such sentiments can lead to kufr I walk around frustrated and angry as I have no avenue to channel my frustration. 9. If anyone performs wudhu at my house and walks with wet feet across a floor where shoes are normally worn and then enters the room for Salah, I will end up washing the carpet when they leave. 10. If any part of my body is wet and I touch a painted wall or door then I feel my body would have become unclean as the paint on the wall may have been administered by a paintbrush made from pig bristles. 11. After passing stool I am incapable of performing istinja on the toilet as the sound of water splashing in the pan makes me feel that water has bounced off the surface of the toilet pan on to my body. I therefore wash thrice on the toilet and then go in the shower. 12. If I have to use the toilet at the Masjid and the slippers are wet I begin to wonder whether it is water or urine. Therefore I carefully remove my trousers so that my feet don’t touch my trousers. If they do, then I wash the affected area of my trousers in the wudhu khana, hence I miss Salah. 13. If a tap has been touched by someone else, who has not washed their hands properly; I will wash my hands, close the tap and stimulate the tap for remaining water in the system to wash the germs off. 14. Recently I have been carrying out a thorough investigation of my shoes and that of my wife’s so that I can ascertain whether they are made from pigskin. This can be a painstaking task and has led me to question, in my heart, the onerous duties of Islam. 15. When performing ghusl I wash a maximum 7 times but then feel compelled to wash more when I see water from my body rebounding of the shower curtain or the bathroom tiles on to me. 16. At Fajr time, it takes me 15 minutes to perform wudhu because I feel compelled to pass water all over my head because I am not unsure where my hands have been at night. 17. I use a separate towel to my wife. If I have any inkling that she may have used my towel, I put it in the wash. 18. If someone walks bare feet in an area where shoes are normally worn and then reads Salah on a prayer mat I use, I will wash that prayer mat as I will feel uncomfortable reading Salah on that mat. 19. If my hand sweats whilst driving I feel that my hand has become unclean because of sweat transfer to a steering wheel containing pigskin. The kufr thoughts began in 2004 after Hajj when I started reading articles published by Majlisul Ulama (South Africa). I began to recall statements I made in Hajj whilst encountering some of the aforementioned issues. I stated that ‘I don’t want to be here, I want to go home, I can’t take this anymore and I don’t feel like praying.’ My intention was not to reject Hajj but the Majlisul Ulama concluded that this constituted kufr. All other scholars that were consulted concluded that this did not constitute kufr. Part of my compulsion, especially in matters of kufr, is to consult other scholars. Without this consultation I always feel there is some doubt. At times this leads to confusion because of differing answers, but no matter how determined I am I keep failing and end up consulting more than one scholar. In the last few years I have asked over 500 questions regarding whether a particular thought, utterance or action constitutes kufr. It is rich of people to say I have not tried. This judgement cannot be made until they have met with me or lived with me. Everyday I wake up with a firm resolution/intention not to entertain thoughts and to perform wudhu, ghusl and istinja in accordance with the Sunnah. The thoughts are so overpowering that I inevitably fail. I have even set myself time limits and made timetables, which have all proved futile. Some people think harshness is the answer to the issue. I say, continue being harsh. It has not helped to date, but for some people it is their default position on every issue. The breaking point came on Saturday when I was reading Salah with full concentration and devotion and a genuine doubt occurred as to whether I had performed masah. I told myself, ‘it’s done.’ The over powering thought then came to my mind that: ‘if you continue to perform Salah when there is a strong doubt regarding the legitimacy of your wudhu, is this not tantamount to kufr?’ I gave up performing the Salah and did not perform witr either. Saturday was the breaking point. I have since been in bed virtually all day and have given up reading Salah or performing any deeni actions as I find it too burdensome. Even though I have felt positive over the last 24 hours and could perform Salah, I have convinced myself, don’t bother, there is no point, i.e. I have fought hard and tried to be positive but the reality is that I will start reading Salah and after a few days I will be back to square 1. I therefore may as well give up and continue sitting in bed all day as this way I have less thoughts and don’t have to undergo the burden of performing wudhu, istinja or ghusl. In addition, I will continue with a life of disobedience. In addition, there is a misguided notion that I function normally when it comes to worldly matters. Well think again, I have not worked now for at least a month and prior to that I have worked unproductively. Herein lies the conundrum. At this point, I have an overwhelming urge to say explicitly that I give up Islam as this sentiment is now strongly etched in to my heart. Secondly, I have condemned the Ulama in my heart. However I do not have the courage to verbally utter such a thing although I am not far off from doing so. What is preventing me from getting out of bed is the thought that, in my heart I have rejected Islam so what is the point? I feel that I should re-enter Islam and re-perform nikah but this is not feasible as my wife will not accede to such a request as she has been through so much turmoil as it is. She will refuse on the basis that I have an issue and that if she accedes to my request of re-performing nikah, how many more times will it happen in the future? For me, if she does not re-perform nikah I will feel as if I am committing adultery and what’s the point of an adulterer performing any good deeds as none of them will be accepted? The only way out seems to be suicide and I don’t have the courage for that either. These issues are constant and have shaped my personality, who I am and how I think. I walk around with a burden on my shoulders at all times. Anyway the question remains (as is always the case), based on what I have said above HAVE I COMMITTED KUFR ALREADY AND, IF SO, WHERE DO I GO FROM HERE? <BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:20:43 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:20:22 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> AssalamoAlaikum Wa Rehmatullah I have gone through http://www.muftisays.com/qa/question/753/medical-insurance.html I need to know if there is any relaxation/permission of medical insurance in countries like US/Canada where the medical costs are too high sometimes. Just to mention the hospital costs can be up to 10,000 $ / night for example for the case of child birth delivery. It can be imagined what If some person has to stay 3,4 nights. Based on the average monthly income and the economic structure in these places, I need your highly esteemed opinion , in what should be the way adopted by muslims who seek to obey Allah's orders. MAY Allah keep us all , on absolute straight path. Ameen JazakAllah kher Usman<BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:20:22 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:19:45 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> I have a question in relation to the general advice given by midwives and health vistors. in order to encourage a child to fall asleep on his own and not be scared or attention seeking the advice given is that if a child above the age of 1 years is waking frequently during the night and does not settle without a dummy or rocking etc then the child can be sleep trained by allowing it to 'cry it out' This means that slowly over a period of weeks the mother initially checks that the child is clean and not unwell then distances herself from the child for about 5 minuites then the next day 10 minutes etc and each day takes longer before going in to the child, leaving the child to cry in the bed and eventually fall asleep on his own. it is difficult to go into detail as the are many different approaches. the following quote is from the nhs website: "If your child cries, leave them for 5-10 minutes before going back in and settling them down again. Don’t pick them up or take them downstairs. If your child gets up, put them back to bed again." http://www.nhs.uk/Planners/birthtofive/Pages/Commonsleepproblems.aspx My question is that is this permissible? sorry for the lengthy question.<BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:19:45 GMT http://www.muftisays.com/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:19:35 GMT Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04<BR> Question:<BR> ========================<BR> 1)wot if there is NO MAHRAM for a dead woman, who will giv the ghusl<BR>2)wot if there no kafn or cloth available to cover atleast the private parts<BR>3)wot if u mis 2 or 3 takbeer in janazah <BR> <BR> Answered: Tue, 29 Nov 2011 01:19:35 GMT